Playing Politics

play politics; defined

a.  to engage in political intrigue, take advantage of apolitical situation or issue, resort to partisan politics,etc.; exploit a political system or political relationships.
b.  to deal with people in an opportunistic, manipulative, ordevious way
Why do we do this?  From my perspective it is exhausting, lacks transparency, is dishonest, and requires you to be someone you are not.

Play office politics without getting dirty is an article that I only half agree with.  From my perspective the first part of this article is all about power, control, and self-advancement.  There is no commitment to a collective effort of the work or movement of the organization.  At the end, it tells you that somehow you can “play politics” with integrity–not sure about this statement.  And that, ultimately if you must change your entire self, then perhaps the organization isn’t for you – that is about all I agree with.

What’s my point?  I have found that my success, and I do believe I have been successful in my work, has not come from playing politics.  My success has come from sharing my agenda, my thoughts and opinions, uncensored and with authenticity, i am trusted and believed.  I am not viewed as someone with ulterior motives.  Certainly one should be tactful and respectful in the way you share —-Of course, many will tell me that i am unrealistic, naive and the list goes on.  I say, you can decide to be and make it different.  You can play the game or change the rules of the game–it is your choice.

Alas, however, we are a society of playing politics, creating strategies to win, making sure we don’t disclose our strategies or risk “losing.”   I would like to advocate for something different.  Full disclosure in an attempt to move forward collectively and inclusively.  Leave the game-playing to the sports industry.

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Secrets

My brother told me when I was 23 that there were no such thing as a secret because every best friend has a best friend.  We tested this hypothesis once when we worked at the same school.  We both decided upon a story to share with someone and we told that person that it was a secret that should not be shared.  I am, here, unfortunately, to tell you that it took no longer than 5 hours for someone to share that very secret with me and for someone to tell that very secret with my brother.

So you might feel that this posting is not uplifting, and I am not trying to imply that you should not trust people, which this example might indicate.  It IS true that whenever you share, you should not be surprised when it is shared with someone else.  Yet, this notion can help keep us honest, and consistently move us towards the goal of being our best selves.  In essence, when you share, ask yourself why you are sharing, what is the purpose, are you trying to be helpful, to make better a situation.  If what you share is shared with someone other than who you shared it with, will you be ok with that?  If not, rethink what you say or how you say it.  Honesty and telling the truth are not necessarily the same thing.  We all have things that come to our minds that quite frankly we should keep to ourselves.

Saying it Out Loud so you can keep it In Mind!

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